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Everyone Wants Something From a Relationship
In the break up of a relationship someone always gets hurt. Why does the girl (generally) hurt more than the guy? Here's a theory: Both people want something from the relationship. Females are looking for love; males are looking for sex. The males "play" at love to get sex. They sweet-talk, saying all the right things. They play at being gentlemen with smooth moves. All with one goal in mind — sex. Females, on the other hand, "play" at sex to get love. They are falling for the sweet talk and the smooth moves. Girls start feeling as if they have to give of themselves physically in an attempt to get what they really want — love. When this type of behavior occurs, females tend to ignore any type of red flag. When something doesn't go right in the relationship, she will start thinking: "He said he was sorry…won't do it again…" So she gives herself physically (sexually) to the guy thinking this is what will keep him around. "He'll love me then… be committed to me then..." The presumption is made that if they give all of themselves physically it will mean that the guy will love them and won't leave them. This is precisely why one person gets hurt. The guy gets what he was after — sex. The girl gave up way too much of herself, and never got what she was after — love. One person gets what they want - the other person gets used and hurt.* *Not to say this only goes one way — there are girls who use guys for sex as well. |
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